I was called to action to write this post just a few days ago when I read an incredible new book by Dan Norris called Create or Hate.
Dan’s take home message in this already best-selling book was that successful people create.
Some examples of this he shares are:
“Steve Jobs made computers. Henry Ford made cars. Walt Disney made cartoons. Richard Branson made records. Elon Musk makes rockets. Oprah makes tv shows, J.K. Rowling makes books. Bill Gates makes software.”
They all create.
The second half of the message in Dan’s book, is that if you aren’t creating, you are hating.
Now this isn’t as harsh as it sounds. He doesn’t mean that you are a Hater or even a bad person.
Hate is that part of your mind that tells you that you aren’t good enough, you couldn’t do it even if you tried so why bother, hate is that part of you that keeps you in the same place, paralyzed with fear for wanting something better.
Hate has a goal, to crush your creativity, to stop you in your tracks.
Hate has been in my ear, telling me I can’t write.
I can create sure, I make things all the time… raw treats, jewellery, art, ‘things’.
“Oh how dare you” says Hate, “Who do you think you are?” he chimes, “No one wants to hear what you have to say, your ideas are stupid” he whispers in my ear.
So Dan’s epic book really couldn’t have come into my life at a better time and his message has reminded me of a few more messages which if you pay a little more loving attention to, will change your life for the better, today…
Create more than you Consume- Dan Norris
Another powerful message Dan brings to light is Create more than you consume, and this one affects me daily.
When hate takes hold, he is also known as Procrastination.
The technologically driven world we live in means most of us barely go to the bathroom without our iPhone in hand, ’cause you know we need to catch up on all the social media goss while we’re in there, multitasking at it’s worst (don’t pretend you’re not guilty of this) and this means consumption is at an all time high.
Procrastination. He settles in when hate says “you need to research your topic, or your market….”, he sucks you into active Facebook groups when you receive massive value bombs of info, which is great, but only when you action them. And taking action, is creating.
To sum up, if you spend all your time researching your project or getting to know your subject then it will be all for naught.
If you spend hours on top of hours consuming Netflix, or Facebook, or Instagram, you are leaving yourself little room to create, and what a shame that would be.
The world wants to see your creation.
People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel– Maya Angelou
This is a simple reminder that is doesn’t matter how successful you are, how much money you make or how much you DO, if you treat people poorly this is what you will be remembered for.
There is another saying something along the lines of treat your gardener the same way you would treat your CEO.
I like to think of this when dealing with my children. I do a million things for them daily, I teach them most of what they know, but they aren’t going to remember any of that. None.
What they are going to remember is that I made them feel safe, secure, loved, protected, cherished, and important.
I guess the bottom line here is to try to make a point of leaving every person you interact with feeling better not worse than they felt before your interaction.
You don’t need to be fake, and yes there certainly will be times this outcome is not possible, but imagine what an amazing place it would be to live in a world where people were always aiming to make a positive impact on one another.
Look Sideways- Carla Pappas
While this one isn’t Carla’s original concept, I do think of this bubbly girl when I hear this message as she lives by it and that is eminent by the way she interacts with her ‘community’ and followers.
Carla says she first heard this message when she was in the U.S having dinner with Joshua Rosenthal, the founder of the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. She says she was getting all wrapped up in awe of how awesome other people were, Joshua stopped her in her tracks with these 2 simple words.
You can read all of Carla’s story here, but for now I’ll continue with my own interpretation of this message.
Look sideways encourages you to flip your ego the bird. You aren’t above anyone and you aren’t below.
We might be born into different circumstances but we are all made of the same stuff, we all bleed red, and when our time here is done none of us get another chance no matter how successful/rich/talented we are. We are of the same.
I have found this message especially empowering lately. Some incredible Facebook groups I am part of, and one food/wellness bloggers group in particular has some pretty established and well known ‘Authority Figures’ in it.
It’s humbling when instead of gushing like a love struck fan whenever they converse with me I can look sideways and remember that they are human just like me, they sometimes have messy kitchens, they scrub their showers, and pick up their dog poop, and they also get stumped sometimes on blog post ideas or recipe creations.
So if there is someone you have been gushing over, or are too afraid to approach for help, just picture them scrubbing their toilet and remember they are human too.
I am you, you are me, we are one.
The moment you put someone on a pedestal, they have no choice but to look down on you- Lisa Messenger
This is perhaps the most empowering sentence I have read, and it continues along the path of the previous message.
We spend our lives idolizing other people, what they have accomplished, the lives they live, the words they speak.
It starts early on, innocently enough for the most part… I mean who doesn’t remember having a poster of their favourite boy band (OMG think NKOTB, or gasp… Millie Vanilli) plastered on their bedroom wall?
But this type of conditioning is a dangerous breeding ground for low self esteem and unrealistic expectations.
It might be a public figure you have put up on a pedestal, it might be your higher-upper at work, it might be someone in your family, or one of your friends, whoever it is please do both yourself and them a favour and take them back down and place them feet firmly on the ground right next to you.
Looking up to people will cause you discomfort, and may even hurt you when you realise that even those you look up to make mistakes and have flaws.
Looking down on people will cause you discomfort, and may even hurt you when you disappoint those looking up to you when you make a mistake or show your flaws.
Let’s all keep our feet grounded and be grateful for the many wonderful influences we have in our lives.
Comparison is the thief of joy- Theodore Roosevelt
While it is totally ok to admire someone or the journey they are on, it is critical to remember it is their journey.
You my friend, are on a journey of your own.
We consume so much media now that it’s easy to get sucked into believing (by Hate of course) that you aren’t as good as X, or that you’ll never make it as a X, or never be as skinny as X, or as successful as XYZ.
The truth of it though is that you don’t know how long XYZ has been hustling their arse off to get to where they are today. You don’t know the struggles they have been through, the heartache, the fails.
So run your own race beautiful, you’re destined to win it!
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it– Charles R. Swindoll
Do you agree with this?
When I think of this quote, I think of people like Kurt Fearnley.
This guy was born without the lower part of his spine, rendering him wheelchair bound for his entire life… this is Kurt’s 10%.
Kurt’s 90% is four-time Paralympian with 3 gold medals, seven-time world champion, 35 marathon wins in 10 countries over 5 continents, and in 2009 he was named NSW Young Australian of the year.
When something bad happens it’s pretty easy to get caught up in the victim mentality, thinking this is the hand you were dealt, this is just the way it is and life isn’t fair.
But there are people out there, just the same as you and I, who were dealt some pretty shitty cards, proving every day that the 90% is what life is all about.
You can choose your reaction.
Feel the fear and do it anyway- Susan Jeffers
It’s great when things are easy, but it’s even better when things aren’t easy and we conquer them anyway!
Fear is vital for our survival.
Fear drives us.
Fear can paralyze or Fear can push.
We all have things that we wish we could do, things we feel we aren’t ready for, not qualified enough for, things that scare the shit out of us.
Moving forward and smashing through these fears is what makes you feel alive, it’s when you get uncomfortable that the real magic happens.
Do something today that scares you, FEEL that FEAR and do it anyway.
Disclaimer: If that ‘something’ I told you above to do it something dangerous or illegal or will bring you bad karma, then please don’t do it. Do something good. That is all.